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Proposal Advisor is the guide and the planning app for the months between deciding and asking. Think of us as the friend who's done this before. The ring, the blessing, the words, the day itself. In order and on time, without the panic.
Before your first ring search: your Wi-Fi can put ring ads on her phone. Here's how to keep them off her phone.
In the exact order you'll need them, from the first conversation to the day after.
The average proposal takes that long to plan. Work the checklist top to bottom and the early steps buy slack for the late ones.
The guide costs nothing. We earn from vetted picks.
The whole road, in nine chapters.
Read it straight through or jump to the chapter you need this week. Each one ends with a way to put it to work in your plan.
Before You Plan
The conversations about marriage, money, and the future that come before any of this.
Inside: The proposal should be a surprise. The question never should be.
→ 2.The Budget
Set a number you won't regret, and keep every dollar accounted for.
Inside: The three months of salary rule was invented by a diamond company's ad agency.
→ 3.The Dream Proposal
Decode the proposal they'd want from the clues you've already been given, then choose your five components.
Inside: The 80/20 rule: the structure fits your partner, the heartfelt emotion comes from you.
→ 4.The Ring
The 4Cs without the jargon, the shapes, the settings, and where smart buyers actually shop.
Inside: A 0.90 carat looks nearly identical to a 1.00 and can cost about a quarter less.
→ 5.The Blessing
How to ask your partner's family for support, not permission, and what to say when you do.
Inside: Listen more than you speak. Their objections are often misunderstandings you can clear up.
→ 6.Date, Place & Vendors
Lock the where and when, then book the photographer before the good ones are gone.
Inside: The evening golden hour is the hour before sunset: soft, warm light, and dinner right after.
→ 7.The Speech
What to say when you propose. Specific memories, around a minute, your partner's name at the end.
Inside: What lands is the feeling, not the word count.
→ 8.The Day
The play-by-play, the backup plans, and how to stay calm when it counts.
Inside: The perfect proposal is the one that actually happens. Excellence, not perfection.
→ 9.After the Yes
Insure the ring, plan the announcement, and take a week to just enjoy it.
Inside: Family hears it from you first. The feed can wait a day.
→“Your proposal isn't a performance. It's a question.”
“The average proposal takes about 4.5 months to plan. We suggest six, so it never becomes a sprint.”
“The right ring is the one that fits your partner's taste and your number.”
Read a chapter. Then put it to work.
Enter one date and you get the whole plan built around it: timeline, budget, checklists, and the deadlines in order. Free to use, and your plan is waiting on any device you sign in on.
A timeline built from one date
Put in the date you plan to ask and you get a dated list back: when to order the ring, when to book the photographer, when to confirm every vendor.
Decoy Mode
Someone walks up behind you, one tap, and your screen is reading the news. When the coast is clear, one tap brings your plan back.
Know where your money stands, line by line
Estimates, actuals, and what's left before the day.
The Ring Studio
Ring size, style notes, your shortlist, and the 4Cs sweet spot from Chapter 4, all in one private place.
Spend where it actually shows.
The 4Cs decide the price of every diamond. Knowing where the value hides is worth thousands. Here's the short version.
Never compromise
Cut makes the sparkle. An Excellent cut flatters everything else about the stone.
G to H wins
Looks icy white to the eye and costs well below the D to F grades nobody can tell apart.
Eye-clean beats flawless
VS2 or better is the sweet spot. You shouldn't pay for flaws only a microscope can find.
Buy just shy
A 0.90 carat looks nearly identical to a 1.00 and can cost about a quarter less.
Ten styles, with real ideas inside each.
Start with the style that sounds like your actual life.
Beautifully Simple · Romantic and Intimate · Adventurous and Outdoors · Unique and Quirky · With the Pet · Holiday Themed · The Grand Public Gesture · Family and Friends · Sophisticated and Cinematic · The Destination
Vetted, so you don't have to guess.
The vendors and products we'd use for our own proposal, with the reason each one earns its spot.
Flytographer
Vetted local photographers in 350+ destinations, from $325 a shoot, plus a concierge team.
Visit Flytographer →Blue Nile
One of the largest online destinations for certified diamonds, with search filters that let you run the exact sweet-spot grades before you spend a dollar.
Visit Blue Nile →The Mrs. Box
Heirloom velvet ring boxes in dozens of colors. A jeweler's bulky box prints an outline in your pocket; these slip into jeans unnoticed.
Visit The Mrs. Box →One useful email a week.
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